No more Jane

For the first time in the 9 years she worked with us, our helper Jane did something she had not done before... she let me down.  She did not reply my message in the last week of her holiday whether things were going well there.  She did not respond when asked whether she would be able to take the flight back, or needed to postpone, or would not be returning at all.  The day of her flight... yep she did not board the plane.  She informed my sister's helper that she couldn't return - her mother had suddenly fallen ill and there was nobody to take care of her kids.  

I couldn't believe it.  There had been trying times before but she had always found a solution.  

This particular trip had been the most stressful.  She was set on returning home in April so I had bought the plane ticket to Manila.  However her work permit renewal was in 'awaiting approval' for ages.  I kept calling and writing in, MYEG advised me to submit a cancellation.  Which took ages again.  The permit was finally approved after 1.5 months instead of the usual 2 weeks.  Next was the contract which also encountered hiccups - the authorities weren't happy she was renewing so close to her flight date and initially didn't want to approve.  Documents were ready ONE day before her flight!  We were so relieved.  I bought the return ticket from Manila.

And now... I had to cancel all those hard-obtained documents.  Which hadn't come cheap - the contract RM2000, the permit/insurance/medical over RM1000.  I had to make a police report that she had run away and pay a compound of RM750 to cancel her work permit.  

 

Money was one thing.  Of course we had accumulated various things waiting for her to return and handle.  On top of that, my emotions were all over the place.  She had been part of our lives for so long.  She was my main partner/implementer/enforcer when dealing with SE's eating disorder.  Over the years we had spent many hours chatting.  Everywhere I look in our house or apartment, I am reminded that she was the one who organised that area.  I find it hard to accept that we will never see her again.  I am just SO SAD.

Plant arrangement by Jane